Why do people invite me to their baby showers?
Why do I click on their registries and look through them longingly?
I guess because I still do want one wriggling in my arms.
I suppose there is still some hope
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- I'm here because it seems to be helping. I am mother to a toddler and we lost our beautiful daughter on Mother's Day 2007 because of cord compression . Ironically, the day she died in the womb, May 12, was her "exact" due date(40 weeks). So many things like this I cannot explain. We welcomed our 'rainbow baby' Jan 2010! Email me: amendingheart at gmail dot com
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are you going to go? I don't know what I would do...
I try to keep in mind that I miss MY baby and that other babies and pregnancies) are other individuals. That having been said, I avoid tiny newborns like they are the plague.
I am so so sorry...It is just amazing how thoughtless people continue to be...
Wanted to know I am thinking about you and keeping you in my prayers....
Hope is all any of us really have.
The other night, I was buying a registry gift for a pregnant friend. Then I proceeded to search out every pregnant person I know and looked to see what they had on there.
Freaks, you and me :) I would make a conflicting plans for the shower, send a gift, be done.
xo
If you're not ready, don't go. I'll be your alibi. We can "hang" out. If you still want to give a gift, send something very impersonal- a gift card from a generic non-baby store. hang in there and shred the invitation if it makes you feel better.
Hope seems to be impossible to keep down.
Would you have been upset if you had not been invited? I think it's a no win situation for the person having the shower- to invite or not to invite dbm like us. I am going to my first one since my own this Friday night. I am dreading it. But I feel like it's something I have to do.
Makes me feel fortunate to not have any friends around me that are pregnant or have young babies. I don't know what I'd do if everyone I know who's pregnant wasn't 2000 km away.
There's nothing like being the elephant in the room. Let us know what you decide. In either case, we'll be here to support you and talk about the preggo's thick ankles if we must. XO.
I'm so sorry. I know exactly how you feel.
I agree with CLC...I think it's a "no win" for people like us.
The single most touching exchange on this journey happened over a baby shower, though. A friend was having her shower, but ahead of the invitation called me and said, "It's coming. I just don't want you to be upset. You don't have to come, but I wanted you to know I value our friendship."
If only everyone could be that considerate.
I also had a friend who sent an invitation, but called and said, "You know, I really don't think I want you to come. I think it would just make me sad, and I want to be happy at my shower."
Anyway, all this is to say that I'm thinking of you and I know how hard this is.
Are you going to go?
Oh, and I'm a registry searcher, too.
S, are you serious? she didn't want you to come so she can be happy? argh! I hope you dumped her like a hot potato!
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